I've been intending to blog for the last few weeks, and it just hasn't happened. There's been so much to figure out, and very very little knitting. Ok, there's been absolutely no knitting, but I've been thinking about it. That counts, right?
A few weeks ago, we were thinking about doing a big wedding in March. We were going to do it on the 17th, which is the day before our 8 year anniversary. Unfortunately, we were having trouble finding a place to do it, and couldn't get that date anywhere.
We weren't super attached to the 17th, so that wasn't really a problem, but the planning of a larger wedding was starting to get overwhelming, not just financially, but in time and thought as well.
Stu and I are fairly low key, and we were quickly realizing that a big wedding was just not "us".
We talked about doing something smaller, but did not want to disappoint any of the parents involved, so we were going to go with it.
I finally got a chance to talk to my mom last Sunday, and she said she liked the idea of a smaller wedding. I think I said something about not wanting to wait til March, and really wanting to do it near Christmas, when all the pretty decorations are up. My Christmas Eve idea had already been vetoed, so I wasn't thinking that I would get a Christmas wedding.
But Christmas is by far my favorite time of year, so I suggested the 23rd, which just happens to be a Saturday, and Christmas Eve Eve (Yes, I celebrate starting on the 23rd!).
This idea seemed to work for my family, and Stu as well. The next challenge was getting a venue on this short notice. Our first choice was the club that my family belongs to.
My Mom wasn't able to get in touch with the social director guy until Tuesday night, but amazingly they had an opening on the 23rd. (I'm taking this as a sign that it's meant to be).
Two weeks ago, I found the perfect wedding gown. The store where I got it buys all the sample dresses from the bridal shops in Vancouver, so they've been tried on, but that's about it. It was the first place I looked, and the third dress I tried. It fits perfectly. It doesn't even need alterations. Actually, it's a tiny bit too long, but with heels, it's perfect.
Last weekend, Stu and I went in search of wedding bands. We looked at a couple of jewellery shops before we found the right ones. Mine has channel set diamonds, and his is stainless steel. It's all shined up, so it looks like white gold, but it's much stronger. We also got my engagement ring re sized, and went to pick up my wedding band, and engagement ring last night (his won't be ready for another couple of weeks).
Shoes were really holding me up. I was torn between beaded satin that were $200+, and finding a shoe I could wear again. I ventured into the mall on Thursday after work, and in the first store I went into, they were selling 3" high white leather pumps. Apparently, they're super "in" right now. They'll work under the dress (like anyone's going to see them anyway), and they look really awesome with jeans. I can't wait till after the wedding when I can wear them with jeans!
There are only a few more things on the list that must be found.
-strapless bra (hopefully will find one today)
-marriage licence (we're going to get it today)
-marriage commissioner (someone to marry us).
-cake (going to find one today)
-flowers (going to find some today)
-book wedding night hotel room
And what would a wedding be without something to overcome?
I was given something to overcome last night. The day after we got engaged, I asked a friend of mine to be my maid of honour, and she accepted. She was so excited. When we told her that we wanted to do a lunchtime wedding, she was less than happy (this was Sunday), and said something about it not being a "real wedding". I was less than happy at this reaction, but I thought I'd give her a day for it to sink in. At this point, I said that if she didn't want to do it she should let me know now, and there'd be no hard feelings. She assured me she wanted to. She called me on Tuesday and left a message for me sounding happy, and excited about the wedding. I returned her call, but got voice mail that night.
On Wednesday night, I found out that she was supposed to get together with Stu's best man to plan a party for the two of us (a Jack and Jill) on Tuesday night, but she never showed up, and just stood up the best man.
When I still hadn't heard from her last night, I left her a text message saying "Did you fall off the planet?". She sent me one back a couple of hours later saying "no, sorry, I've just been really busy". Then, an hour after that, we had just walked into the jewellery store to pick up our rings and my phone started vibrating because I got a text message. I thought it would be her, saying she'd give me a call later (we were supposed to go strapless bra shopping today, and she promised me she'd be there when we made the plans last Saturday). Instead, I got a message saying, "sorry, I can't be your maid of honor" and that was it! W...T...F...????
What?!? I couldn't believe that she text messaged me that sort of thing. Don't you think that's something that should be done in person? So now I'm left without anyone to stand up with me when we get married. I'd ask another friend of mine, but I wouldn't want her hating me too! I wasn't ever even one of those crazy control freak brides. I wanted her to wear whatever she wanted, and not get something she'd only wear once. I was sooo easy going! All she had to do was show up and hold Stu's ring until I needed it! Oh well. It's time to move on.
Must. Move. On.
So, Stu is going to have a very good friend of ours be his best man (and he's being an awesome best man too!!), and then my brother as a groomsman. Here's my thought --- I'm thinking about asking my brother if he'd stand with me instead. I know he'd never abandon me. Even when we were younger and didn't really get along, he was always there for me when I needed him. I'm going to run it by him today.
And what does all of this leave? Me with a touch of insomnia. It allows me to see beautiful winter sunrises though. Notice that there's still snow on the ground? Now, that's not normal at all. I just thought the sky looked really pretty. My camera's pointed south, south west. Apparently, that's where the sun rises now. No, I'm not insane.